Happiness – Part I

You and I have known each other for a long time. Well, maybe not. Perhaps you’ve just stumbled onto my blog. But anyway …

I think it’s time we got serious. Time we talked about what’s really close to our hearts. And it’s a pretty simple but very important one.

It’s about this thing called Happiness.

We all want to be happy. That’s a given thing. We want it more than anything else.

More than Money. More than Love. Fame. Success. Prestige. Power.

Those things are secondary because we hope that Money, Love, Fame, Success. Prestige, Power or whatever else will deliver Happiness. So most of our waking hours are spent chasing these things.

But we also rightly know that Happiness is just something in our heads. The source of happiness is not external but internal.

We know fame doesn’t deliver it.

Just ask Whitney Houston. But it’s too late to question her, I suppose.

Too late to quizz Howard Hughes about being wealthy beyond anyone’s dreams, but maybe we can ask still Rupert Murdoch.

As for Love, we know how fleeting or disastrous it can be. You only have to listen to all those woeful love songs!

No, Happiness is found in ourselves. In our hearts.

But sometimes we have to admit that we’re unhappy. Often it’s because we’re unfulfilled.

Unfulfilled because we don’t have what we want. We don’t have what we desire.

So it might be a good time to ask yourself:

What do I desire?

Perhaps you can come up with a list.

We’ll talk again, you and I, about these items.

We’ll talk about your DESIRES …

Because. the fact is, your desires cause UNHAPPINESS.

Don’t you agree?

(I know this is all very deep. But I did say we were going to get serious!) :)

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5 Responses to Happiness – Part I

  1. Ha!Ha! I like the way you define love!(woeful love songs)Happiness….. Love…..Desire……. such nerve wrecking words.You are right about desires causing unhappiness Tunku Halim. Ok the Oxfords definition of desire is(a)a strong wish to have or to something.(b)a strong feeling of wanting sb sexually.Gosh this word itself is disaster!

  2. Orang Minyak

    Totally get what you’re trying to say.

    Every time i feel a desire to achieve something, i’ll go for it, and once i have it, ill feel empty again and start to desire for something more. It is up to the point that i always ask myself, what next?

    Is this what life is all about? Wish i could just lie to myself and say that i’m happy and content with my achievements, however small they may be.

  3. Desires cause unhappiness? Not necessarily. In Buddhism, desires can be divided into two categories, (a) earthly desires (meaning, luxuries, love, sex, big cars, wealth and fame etc.) and (b) desire in a wider sense, namely, the desire for the happiness of all human beings, the desire for world peace, the desire for social stability, and the desire to eradicate the roots of all sufferings of mankind. The desire in the wider sense is a root to enlightenment (absolute happiness) that was what led Buddha to attain enlightenment.

    What then is my own desire? Well, I want to work hand in hand with my love ones and my friends in my community to support, encourage one another so that each and everyone of us has the courage and strength to face the trial and tribulation of daily life and strive for our communal “happiness” (including for myself) and also we can work together to build a greener community that is in harmony with mother nature. Seeing my love ones and friends being healthy and free of financial difficulty is a form of happiness in itself.

    Well….hee hee hee my another desire, to get my book published… ;) -

    Here is a quote to share, my friends :-

    “I am more and more convinced that our happiness or unhappiness depends more on the way we meet the events of life than on the nature of those events themselves.”
    Alexander Humboldt.

  4. wow deep :) desire/epithumia is indeed the source of many unhappiness especially when it is unfufilled, i suppose the key to happiness then is to desire only what can be fulfilled? or not to desire anything so that nothing is unfulfilled…aiyah, i dunno lah, beyond my what my puny mind can digest, will just wait for you to continue :)

  5. Thanks for your great comments … I’ve just up another post on Happiness! :)

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